Growing up in India, I have had the opportunity of studying in all women’s college and experience the strength of that community, when women with dreams could get together, support each other, and lead each one of us to becoming stronger. Our discussions were not essentially about women’s weaknesses and strengths or about how the community has been suffering in various forms through various eras. Our conversations were mostly about our individual strengths and what made each one of us strong enough to support the community of humans in the future. This meant, that no matter where we go and what we do, we are enabled and empowered to lead — ourselves, our families, social circles, organizations, and the world.

I was the Vice-President of the Student Council and I remember the little joys some little girls would find in being introduced to me, and I also remember the inspiration I’d draw when they’d say, they want to be like me some day — a confident woman with a voice.

However, growing up, I got much feedback about becoming compliant to the expectations of a society and little did I realize that this feedback meant I must be less confident and should not have a strong voice. I trusted the feedback without questioning, especially because it came from women; and I had only experienced women supporting other women. (Today I wonder why my male colleagues were appreciated for their confidence and strength when I was told to mellow down).

I taught myself to be softer and the way I learnt to do this was through self-doubt. The Yukta that was build over years, took her own sweet time to break herself down, so she could more acceptable.

It took a nudge of my old friends, and my husband, who reminded me of who I was. I set off on a journey of rebuilding myself because there could still be someone sitting in a corner being inspired by me.

I set myself on a learning journey to be myself again and yes, there is a need for that.

Yesterday, someone told me I come across as too strong for some people. Well! Thank you for validating that my efforts are working and I am moving in the right direction.

Yesterday, someone told me I come across as too strong for some people. Well! Thank you for validating that my efforts are working and I am moving in the right direction.

To all the women reading this: trust in your own judgement. Be confident in who you are and what you stand for. Use your strength not just to fit in but to stand out and lead by example. It’s not about being tough for toughness’s sake; it’s about being resolute in your beliefs and actions. When we embrace our true selves and support one another, we create a community where every woman can thrive, inspire, and lead with confidence.